To do well is to be ethical or to abide by outlines, is that all it seeks to mean?. When a needle falls into a deep well, many will look into the well but only a few will be willing to go down after it.
We know how our culture is.
We have the outmoded, parallel and dynamic culture. But there is a psychological superstition that when you acknowledge someone for doing good or well then the fellow will feel full of himself or herself and become arrogant, I just laughed at that.
Won’t it be better to feel full of myself for doing good and by that be pushed to do more? or are we saying we should be full of our selves for the wrong purpose.
Just like lies can dominate over truth, truth can equally dominate over lies if only we hail the truth.
When I help someone they keep silent because I don’t deserve the name but deserve the responsibility right?
Well, responsibilities are for committed people and how do you keep them committed? By motivation and it comes in so many ways, that includes acknowledging people either verbally or physically.
You can imagine doing good to someone and the person comes to thank you or discuss it in public, that zeal and feel of excitement and propel of confidence and pride will not only push you to do more but also push you to have a free conscience and indirectly Lure more people into looking for such a name and repute.
People love attention, appreciation and the name.
That’s why we have fake awards these days to award cronies.
Why do you think that happens? To boost their morale and push them to do what they do best. If your grand parents or parents ever told you acknowledging will make one arrogant, then it’s a misplacement of priority because neither will blaming and complaining make someone less arrogant, consider the effects of constant blames and complaints:
1. When nothing is appreciated the little appreciation will lure the fellow away to the source of appreciation.
That is why the drinking spots host more people than we can imagine. When people go there, the respect, appreciation and honor is higher, people smile, buy things for others and they acknowledge you in public, even when you make a mistake there it is not taken very serious and no body blames or judges you. So let’s think of how we can relocate this attitude to the right place.
2. Romantic relationships: This appreciation and honor can also be found here.. Boyfriends and girlfriends appreciate a little kindness and admit it even in the form of appreciation with kisses. So when people get this knowing very well they either get blamed or never appreciated elsewhere why will they ever go where their wrongs were only noticed.
That culture of not acknowledging and appreciating because we feel the fellow should do it or it is his or her responsibility should stop and we can have the world back.
Suggesting based on this that from today when people do good talk of it just like you talk of the bad, let’s try to even silence the bad most often, lets solve the bad more internally by involving a few, preferably consulting the fellow. We shall be okay one day.